I am the mother of two beautiful sons. Their names are Wyatt and Spencer. They are both aptly named. Spencer is 6 and is very soft in nature, whereas Wyatt my two year old is a very aggressive little guy. In fact he can be heard throwing his tantrums throughout our little neighbourhood.
They are both very different from each other. Other than both demanding my time they don't have much in common at all. I have had to learn that my lap MUST accomadate two children. They are both very jealous. I have learned that if their is an issue over a toy it is usually Wyatts fault. I have learned that bedtime can be the most wonderful time of the day.
When you have a child the hospital gives you all these "wonderful" little manuals on motherhood. If you choose to go even further the magazine industry is making a fortune on step by step partenting. There are numerous websites on how to be the perfect mother and how to correct your childs "little" issues. Yes you can learn kid friendly recipes, proper diaper rash care, how to handle tantrums, and generally why everything that is wrong with your little angel is all your fault. Yep they are more than happy to feed your anxiety; and push the social mesage that if a child is sucessful, they must have had a good mother and if the child is not, some woman did not do her job.
It is time for mothers of the western world to unite!!! We cannot work 40 hours per week, cook perfect meals every night, keep a spotless house, have kids kids in activities 5-7 nights per week and then magically turn into little sex vixens at 9 pm to make our husbands happy. This would be too much for even wonder woman.
Step into the real world with me. Your kids won't die if the house isn't spotless, a fend for yourself dinner can be relaxing every once and a while, and finally you are not frigid if you say sleep on your own damn side of the bed.
In the 6 years that I have been a mother, I have had much to laugh and smile about. There have been times when I have been so stressed out, I thought my last nerve would simply snap. There have been times when I have said just little me use the bathroom without somone yelling mom what is taking so long in there. There have even been times when I have felt like the woman in the calgon commercials.
The only piece of advice I can offer is throw out the magazines. Stop googling manuals on how to raise kids and keep the perfect house. Accept the fact that you were not perfect before the kids and you are not perfect now. Most of all love our kids with all of your heart and enjoy every single moment.